By: Cindy Kolbe
It begins with an accident, an injury, and someone to blame. I fell asleep at the wheel, causing my youngest child’s C6-7 spinal cord injury.
Beth with her mother, Cindy
As a life-long advocate of people with disabilities—even before the accident—I lose myself in guilt and depression. My shy but determined teenager battles the limits of quadriplegia and carries us forward, since, between the two of us, she is the emotionally stable one. I attempt to keep up as her world resonates with fortunate accidents.
One day, a friend asked me to share what I wish I had been told at the beginning…when my daughter Beth was injured. She has C6-7 spinal cord injury which resulted in quadriplegia. My first list began with three thoughts:
Breathe deeply. Hug. Rest. Repeat.
Find a good listener. Share your feelings with someone who cares.
Let other people help. Get comfortable asking for help until you are back to being the one who can give instead of receiving.
Then I had to stop writing.
I realized that I had been told these things, in one way or another. Thankfully, family and friends had rallied to support us. Even so, I didn’t sleep during the first days and was unable to talk about my feelings. I also could not ask for help. I had to rethink my list. I started over with things I had not heard soon after the accident.
1.Find the best medical options.
Begin with a top hospital. Take time to research rehab centers. For example, consider the Chicago Shriners Hospital for children up to 21 years of age for rehab (or outpatient treatment). Be where you need to be.
After intensive care, Beth transferred to a Toledo rehab center. It didn’t feel right, so we soon moved to another. The second center in Green Springs was perfect for physical therapy, but the doctors on staff had no experience with spinal cord injury. We had to wait until Beth came home to connect with great doctors. Continue reading